A recent conversation among teenage boys caught my attention. One of them discussed his pursuit of a girl who kept rejecting his advances. 

“Ladki ki nah mein bhi haan chupi hoti hai”

 (A woman’s “no” hides a “yes”), he asserted confidently, echoing a sentiment often glorified in media and culture—one that dangerously romanticizes persistence in the face of a woman’s initial refusal.

This narrative, perpetuated by movies, songs, and stories, is not benign; it’s insidious and harmful. It suggests that a woman’s initial rejection is merely a coy invitation for further pursuit, ultimately leading to her changing her mind and consenting.

This problematic narrative not only trivializes consent but also sets a dangerous precedent. It breeds a culture where young people are conditioned to believe that “no” means “try harder,” rather than “stop.” This portrayal fosters a culture where boundaries can be disregarded, where persistence is celebrated over respect, and where coercion and harassment find justification under the guise of romantic pursuit.


One of the most notorious cases in recent Indian history, the gang rape and murder of 

, shocked the nation and brought global attention to the issue of sexual violence. This brutal attack on a young woman and her male friend on a bus in 

 highlighted not only the extreme violence women face but also the pervasive disregard for consent and boundaries. The attackers, fueled by a sense of entitlement and impunity, brutally assaulted Nirbhaya and her friend, illustrating the horrific consequences of viewing women’s autonomy as negotiable.


In another tragic incident, a young woman from 

, accused a local politician of rape. Despite her repeated pleas and attempts to seek justice, her allegations were initially ignored and even suppressed. The case garnered national attention when she attempted to set herself on fire outside the 

 residence, demanding justice. This case highlighted not only the vulnerability of women in seeking justice but also the systemic failures that perpetuate a culture where perpetrators feel emboldened to violate consent without consequence.

Shifting the Narrative: Teaching Respect and Consent

In cities like Delhi, where incidents of sexual violence against women persistently plague the headlines, the consequences of such narratives are stark and alarming. Reports continue to show rising numbers of sexual assaults, highlighting a pervasive disregard for consent and a culture of entitlement. Women face the harrowing reality of their boundaries being violated, their voices silenced, and their autonomy undermined.

Instead of addressing the root cause i.e misguided notions of romance and entitlement, the focus often shifts towards restricting the freedoms of women. Daughters are advised to be cautious, to dress modestly, to avoid certain places and times, perpetuating a cycle of victim-blaming and reinforcing the idea that women are responsible for preventing their own assault. This narrative fosters a sense of helplessness and self-blame when their boundaries are violated. Many victims of sexual assault hesitate to come forward, fearing they will be blamed or not taken seriously.

It is imperative to shift the societal gaze away from victim-blaming and towards cultivating a culture that respects and values consent. The solution lies not in confining our daughters but in liberating our sons from the shackles of entitlement. We must educate young men to understand that consent is not negotiable, that a woman’s “no” must be respected unequivocally.

This cultural shift requires a multifaceted approach. We need comprehensive sex education that goes beyond biology to include lessons on consent, respect, and healthy relationships. We need media that portrays realistic and respectful interactions between genders, rather than perpetuating harmful stereotypes. And most importantly, we need parents, educators, and community leaders to model and reinforce positive behaviors and attitudes.

Changing deep-seated cultural norms is a daunting task, but it is not insurmountable. It begins with challenging harmful narratives wherever we encounter them, whether in our homes, schools, workplaces, or popular media. It requires holding perpetrators of sexual violence accountable while providing support and justice to survivors. And it demands that we empower women and girls to assert their boundaries confidently and without fear.

 perpetuates a dangerous narrative that undermines consent, perpetuates harassment, and contributes to a culture of violence against women. It is time to dismantle these harmful beliefs and instead foster a culture where every individual’s boundaries are respected, where consent is fundamental, and where safety and respect prevail. Only then can we pave the way for a future where every woman can live freely and fearlessly, knowing her voice will be heard, cherished, and respected.

Articles by Samreen Zahra Sayed

Debunking the Myth: “Ladki ki Nah Mein Bhi Haan Chhupi Hoti Hai”

Debunking the Myth: “Ladki ki Nah Mein Bhi Haan Chhupi Hoti Hai”